I knew for some time that soemthing wasn't right.  I thought I was just being silly, he assured me there was nothing going on.  The first time I asked him that - he was probably telling the truth.  But the second time, while out for our aniversary, I asked again and I knew he was lying.  I chose to accept the lie.  I had no proof.  The day after Father's Day, I had my proof.  For 10 months he lied to me.  I couldn't believe I was right.  I didn't want to be right.  I want to throw him out and then again I don't....I feel like I let it happen by not saying anything when I had those "feelings".  I was afraid I would look like a stupid jealous wife.....Now, by deciding to try to work this out - he's very very sorry - I feel like I'm letting him get away with it.  I hate this shit.....I have 4 kids all under the age of 11 and I really really wish I could reverse time.  How on earth do you trust again?